My children have estranged me over the fact that a monetary value was put on them from the Family Courts and its system.  My employment of 20 years is getting physically demanding and I carry an injury from an occupational hazard from 15 years ago.  Everything lawyers, counsellors, judges, doctors, politicians, and all that can carry an opinion on the burdens created in my very existence as a Good Samaritan give me advice that don’t correlate with common sense. I when I make a request to remedy my needs, every government and corporate systems and its subordinates involved in it, ...<< MORE >>

There is a need for major changes on both spectrums of business and labour. I've worked both sides of the fence (union and company) and don't agree with most practices from either side. The corporations are now being run by banksters that have no value for human needs and the unions are ran by compliant self serving “want to be” politicians that have forgotten the human aspect of workers’ needs. There are no more “lead by example” chiefs out there since the power has corrupted their decision making...egos end up running the show.

Read entire article  - Egomaniacs Running The Show

        

The Sociopathic Behaviour of Large Corporations

One only needs to be reminded what a corporation is to understand why and how they are allowed to come down hard on the average working people that they are suppose to be serving. When greed is put into the equation...

Content Source: Bukisa - The Sociopathic Behaviour of Large Corporations

        

These wonderful ladies on BraveHeart have a great program on Parental Alienation.  The program is enlightening and hopefully can teach lost souls about some effects of divorce.  Dorcy Russell's interview is brilliant and covers most aspect of Parental Alienation with her own experiences.  Some men out there deserve to hear this, since it can help them determine the cause of some confusion and anger that is caused by this form of child abuse.

Conscious TV - Today's Show Conscious Co-Parenting @ Yahoo! Video

http://braveheartwomen.com/- Conscious TV-On today's show theBraveHeart panel talks with DorcyRussell, the founder of the"Conscious Co-Parenting Institute", aboutstrategies and solutions for parents and children struggling with"Parental Alienation" and high conflict divorce. Whether you're lookingfor solutions in this area or not, this show will enlighten you!
 

        

As a divorced dad that is constantly being bombarded by an ex wife for increased child support in a family law system that is unrealistic to non custodial parents, one can imagine that my budget is tight as well as periodically disrupted.  It wouldn’t be so bad if I can predict when a new court order was being dreamed up by my ex wife, then I would financially prepare myself by socking away an “ex wife emergency fund”.  However, in this system of modern day slavery, where the average pay raises does not increase as quickly as the cost of living, ones budget seems to be playing catch up all the time.  Of course every smart income earner should always save away at the least 6 months of salary as an emergency fund.  I know you’re thinking, yeah right I live pay check to pay check like every other working stiff.  Whether you are capable to acquire and Emergency Fund or not, it is still a very comforting thing to have.  It can help you pull yourself out of a financial pinch, like having to get your vehicle fixed, helping you find another job after losing your last one, or anything life changing which effects your budget...and let’s face it, everything cost money today, emergency or not.  One cannot even step out his front door without spending $20 today.

So, because of the way society is today, it seems like most people are never satisfied, and if you are unfortunately connected to an extreme case of personal dissatisfaction, then there is never light at the end of the tunnel.  In the last half of the year, I was ordered to return to the family courts by my ex wife, this is the fourth time in 13 years; I even kind of anticipated it since her time was due.  The crazy thing about it is that I prepared myself for it.  She was going on several luxury trips a year, her husband had purchased a new Harley Davidson motorcycle, she was on her third vehicle, and they were taking sailing lessons, you can almost see the writing on the wall.  When she had my daughter serve me a letter with family court order written all over it, I wasn’t surprised.

A few months pass, I get ordered to pay $1404 per month child support, with $15,000 back pay (51% of my wages), and she was heading out to Mexico with my children for a luxury trip.  Wham; there goes my Emergency Fund and a lot more!  After that, the following 5-6 months I was struggling not to lose my shirt, I missed a few utility bills.  My biggest utility bill was with Hydro One, a crucial necessity for a household, especially when the house is heated primarily by electricity.  In the deep of winter, this corporate giant, Hydro One, was threatening to cut us off if we didn’t catch up with our electric bills.  Their automated robot bill collector was calling us every second day or so and leaving messages on our answering machine.  It was eerie hearing a robot ask us for money to the point of harassment.  We called Hydro One’s telephone representatives to ask for assistance to no avail, and ended up paying our electricity bill using credit cards.

Even though we managed to pay Hydro One’s bill, they still insist that we pay their Debt Reduction Fee.  You see, we’ve been paying diligently for over 8 years, this Hydro One’s debt off, a debt that was incurred by mismanagement and CEO’s giving themselves million dollar bonuses in the past.  These CEOs, which were given Golden Handshakes for bringing down a company, that should have never lost money; a company that has everyone in the country as a customer, providing them with a service that is as necessary as having to eat on a daily basis.  I know that sounds a little dramatic, but electricity is crucial, some can live without it, but most modern day slaves need it so their alarm clock can wake them up in the morning.

The kicker is ... now get this ... Hydro One has just sent us a bill, even after we managed to ride out a few months of late payments, they send us a bill with a $1,336.60 Adjustment fee.  What is this you might ask yourself?  We get this bill on top of our regular monthly payment for electricity, in the middle of summer when all is quiet and our bills are caught up, this Adjustment fee which is a fee charged in case we have trouble paying our bill again.  Did you get that?  What a greedy world we are living in today!

        

This next article printed in The Globe and Mail is a true story.  It is happening to non custodial parents, especially fathers, in every family courts across our nations.  This is not just happening to the deadbeat dads, this is happening to the contributing members of our society.  The men who work hard at trying to establish a good future for his family, following all the rules and regulations pushed down their throats, jumping through the fire hoops to success, and even doing dirty jobs that they are not even meant to do.  For this reason, men usually die at an earlier age than woman due to occupational illnesses and financial stress, never mind the added stress of being alienated by their children because of unrealistic family court orders imposed on them.

When I read an article like the following, my heart swells and my sympathy for these poor fathers grow.  I know this from my own experience of being dragged into the family courts numerous times in the last 15 years. To sum this one up, if one was keeping track, this is another win for vengeful custodial parents and the associated members of the family courts. Without these divorced fathers, profits for others could never be achieved.

Globe and Mail Article

What do you think?

Father ordered to pay $20,000 punishment

KIRK MAKIN

JUSTICE REPORTER — From Monday's Globe and Mail
Last updated on Tuesday, Jul. 07, 2009 07:32AM EDT

An Ontario Superior Court judge has ordered a crusading fathers'-rights activist to pay $20,000 to the federal government as punishment for mounting an ill-founded challenge to federal child-support payment guidelines.

Mr. Justice Alan C.R. Whitten ruled that Lucien Khodeir's negligence lawsuit amounted to a delaying tactic designed to forestall him having to pay support orders of $1,230 - including arrears - for Mr. Khodeir's 12- and 14-year-old children.

Several weeks ago, Judge Whitten dismissed the lawsuit after a brief hearing.

"Access to justice does not mean an absence of consequences or responsibilities," he said in the costs ruling. "It is trite to say that no one wishes to discourage meritorious claims, but it would be naive to think that all claims are per se meritorious."

Judge Whitten said that Mr. Khodeir is not a hero, but a public nuisance. He likened Mr. Khodeir to a citizen who phones the fire department to report an emergency: "Having so accessed this service, we should be prepared to face the consequences - costs or otherwise - if we phone in a false alarm or something we can readily extinguish ourselves."

However, Mr. Khodeir said in an interview that the cost ruling is another example of judges shutting the courtroom doors to self-represented litigants who display the audacity to attack a sacred legal shibboleth such as the child-support guidelines.

Mr. Khodeir said that he is in debt "up to my eyeballs," but he will not be deterred from his campaign to overturn guidelines that he regards as unfair, arbitrary and discriminatory toward men.

"I'm not going to give up until I'm either dead or something else stops me from proceeding," Mr. Khodeir said. "They are trying to say that I'm just bitching about my child support, but that is not what I'm doing at all."

Mr. Khodeir - a self-employed Hamilton tax auditor - accused Judge Whitten of making up his mind before ever hearing any arguments in the case.

"Every time I opened my mouth, he would shut me up," Mr. Khodeir said. He added that, out of a total of approximately 50 court appearances he has made, only on one occasion was he treated fairly by a judge.

"I don't expect to win every argument, but I'm fairly intelligent and educated, so I should be able to win one or two arguments along the way," he said. "Generally, judges don't like to hear from self-represented litigants because they consider them a waste of time."

In addition to his failed lawsuit, Mr. Khodeir has been pursuing a separate case in family court that also alleges that the child-support guidelines are an unconstitutional add-on to the Divorce Act.

He claimed that the guidelines were improperly drafted by a group of bureaucrats and family-law experts, and that they fail to take into consideration an individual's ability to pay.

The presiding judge in the family-court motion has reserved his ruling.

In his ruling on the costs award, Judge Whitten conceded that Mr. Khodeir is an intelligent man who is adept at citing past judgments and precedents.

However, Judge Whitten said that he was not impressed by the purported novelty of Mr. Khodeir's submissions, nor by his elaborate attempt to present himself as being "the model of reasonableness."

        

Months later, after seeking a lawyer’s advice, a new court order has been written up. The child support payments are still higher than my salary base, but it’s settled...until the next round of changes due to disgruntles. The only difference now is that my wages have significantly dropped. There are layoffs looming, corporate income losses, factories shutting down, and everyone is changing the way they do business.

The only thing that does not change, are family court orders issued on dead broke noncustodial parents, when this occurs, it is time to revisit the family laws and its courts. It can almost be marked down like a holiday or a pre set event...every fiscal cycle, every time the law is tweaked, every time there is a lifestyle change...etc. We can call it Deadbroke Deadbeats Season, where lawyers, judges, and their associates can apply for licenses to be able to hunt categorised species of deadbeats, deadbrokes, or whatever they like.   With the family court system, anytime something changes (even something like a new pair a shoes) the custodial parent has a right to obtain their share, using the new improved rules of the day, or whichever.

In the extreme case, this can be due to the fact that the noncustodial parent obtained a higher skill, I’ve heard things like “he’s a good carpenter, and that pays well, but he has a law degree, that pays even better and he’s income potentials are greater”.  In other words, the family court judge can base a child support payments on the payer’s potential income...so image that, you can be happy and very good at selling shoes for $25,000 per year, but instead you get ordered to pay child support on the $100,000 per year because of the higher stature you might be able to hold. Do you get that? Because if you do then, please explain to me where in that ideology, is the ability for an individual to live their own chosen life, comes in here? Go ahead leave your comment, nobody here is scared of the truth.

Going broke is ok, all depending on your lifestyle...you get what you need but don't get what you want.  Make a little donation if you like www.DeadBrokeDad.ca. All proceeds will help in maintaining this website, and if you're my ex wife, instead of going on the second Caribean Cruise this year and have extra, I can use some cash to pay next months child support.

        

After seven months of paying out 51% of my wages, the time has come to start liquidating to start paying off the credit cards we've been racking up to living on.  This is the result of continuous respondance to child support court orders, the fourth time in 13 years as a matter of fact.  So we are having.....


A DEADBROKE DAD'S FATHER'S DAY YARD SALE!  Come one, come all, everything but the dog is FOR SALE!

On June 20, 2009 (Father's Day) starting at 7:00 A.M. til everything is sold!  Bring your friends, family, even your KIDS (because ...<< MORE >>

ALEC BALDWIN CONSIDERED SUICIDE OVER CUSTODY BATTLE OF HIS DAUGHTER!

The man with a swaggering attitude, Alec Baldwin, he can have anything in Hollywood, anything but his daughter thanks to the family law system.

I’ve seen a few of Alec Baldwin and Kim Basinger’s movies and television performances and I really enjoyed their style.  Alec’s attitude always made me giggle in a manly kind of way, however i always admired a man who can sway like John Wayne and not look silly at it.

Now poor Alec feels the pain of many other fathers, the dads that are all tied up in a financial and emotional knot by the family law system that's gone a little on the wacky side.  Gone are the days when the man of the house…oh sorry…that story isn’t used anymore; or it may sound a little to “wife beaterish”.  The truth of the matter is, that there is a lost feeling when a father can’t be there for his own flesh and blood at any given time.  The worries about the upbringing of your children, hoping to shed light on them when you have that little time with them, and hoping the short experiences were positive.  You make time, more qualitative than quantitative, which can be a very demanding job, especially when some outside and sometimes alien rules have been imposed on yours and children’s time.  The bottom line is, dads watch over their own, even if at a distance.

	“Academy Award nominated actor and single dad Alec Baldwin considered killing himself when his nasty answering machine message to his pre-teen daughter at her mother's house was leaked to the press, according to People Magazine. He called the teenager a "rude little pig" who needed her "ass straignted out" and had "humiliated me for the last time." It was ugly. No denials there.”
"Kim Basinger starred as Domino in the Bond flick Never Say Never Again, showed off her assets in the '80s erotic film 9 1/2 Weeks, portrayed Vicky Vale in Batman, and showed us her comedic side as Honey Hornee in Wayne's World 2.” AskMen.com
Visit DeadBroke's Hide Out	I salute the media coverage of Alec and Kim’s real life drama...this looks good on our society and its man made systems…makes me feel like i am not alone and that i belong!

Alec Baldwin considered suicide in custody battle over his daughter

        

Have you heard of this?  Call me a lumberjack or whatever…but former bankers making money off divorce cases?  I wonder how much money these guys are making, a little bit of Profit From Misfortune eh boys!

Then I asked myself, “What the heck sir…why didn’t you think of that?”  As quickly as i asked myself that question, an answer interrupted it instantly.  One thing is for sure, i would not want to be on the frontlines of that business.  Imagine processing your cliental face to face?  I don’t know, again i can’t wrap my brain around this one; the bottom line is that, it all adds up to one conclusion, someone is making money off someone else’s misery.

This means that these former bankers who started this business, they understand and sympathize with their cliental, want to be there for them, and will provide them with the best service available so their clients can get the best outcome from their divorces.  In order to maximize your profits out of your service, you must provide that service with all your heart and soul, the larger your passion is put into the job, the bigger the return.  And if you enjoy what you’re doing, then you have almost reached your maximum profits.  You are the richest person alive!

I guess that sounds lucrative, people are willing to pay thousands of dollars for a good lawyer, might as well throw in another thousand or so in order for you to be organized, and so you don’t get confused by the family Laws, the family courts, the big bad judges, the tigershark lawyers, the extra fees, the collecting agencies, the head shrinks, and the two cops that come and pick you up if you’re not happy with the hand that was just dealt to you.  Why not through in the Divorce Shield package, especially if it can get rid of the two police officers.  “One can make money off this…”, the little capitalist voice says in my head, but then i take peek inside my very existence, the basic instinctive feelings it carries and holds in my soul, and think, “wholly crap man, being a bloodsucker in this day of age can be VERY lucrative!”.

This fellow blogger has a better idea on how one can Profit From Misfortune.

Enchiridion

A Guide to Freedom and Happiness

How to Profit From Misfortune

“Every time something bad or unpleasant happens to you, ask yourself what skills, resources or powers you have for turning that accident into an opportunity for self-development. If you see an attractive person, for example, you have within you the power of self-restraint to overcome your desire. If you're in pain, you have the strength to endure pain. If you hear harsh language, you have patience. By focusing on the defensive weapons you already posses, rather than the assault, you will grow those defences and not be defeated by bad or unpleasant things in life.”

Divorce, Family Counselling, Divorce and Money - Divorce Shield